Have you ever found yourself in the forever loop, going round and round, in the confusion, frustration, and overwhelm?

The loop exists in our life, the going round and round in a situation, or a relationship, that neither, we feel in control of, or can escape, creating an inner turmoil and conflict, never feeling heard, and creating a stuck-ness in a never-ending cycle, because we are living on the outside of our lives. The frustration, the overwhelm, and the confusion, is painful and uses up so much energy. Which voice do you listen to, and which way do you turn? But what if I told you, it’s not about which way you turn, but more about how you listen and understand.

Not being able to trust your inner wisdom, and know what feels right for you, or knowing what you want, can be exhausting. The loop exists in our lives to help us understand and feel a greater existence, to live a deeper meaningful life and purpose. A life that can see the truth behind the loop, a life where we can be free of our emotional patterns. Emotional loops help surface unconscious material that guide our lives, and bring it into the light, where we can see the loop, and reclaim our power. Unconscious emotions drive our everyday thoughts and behaviours, whether we are aware of them or not, and these patterns and thoughts create our loops. By understanding the root of the loop, it helps us to relinquish the hold the loop has over us.

Many emotional loops arise from old survival patterns of shame, fear of abandonment, guilt, or the need to be someone for others. The roles that we develop hide these emotions and cause us conflict, throwing us into the never-ending loops. As you meet these patterns with loving presence (instead of judgment), we create new pathways toward finding inner alignment.

The Loop is the Teacher, and we the soul, the pupil. As we incarnate, we learn and grow through experience. Emotional loops are soul-curriculum, as they sharpen our discernment, expand our capacity for love, and help us align with our higher self.

Even when it feels like you’re back in the same place, you’re not. Each return to a loop offers a deeper layer of healing.  If the loop is not processed and fully understood and you manage to end your relationship, or situation, you will find yourself back in the loop. But you will not be where you were, as each return to the loop offers more awareness. It is a spiral toward truth, not a cycle of failure.

Loops are there to help you identify the role you are playing in a relationship or situation. A role that is not the true you, but simply performing to get a need met outside yourself.  The loop feels inauthentic, off, or in conflict, because somewhere deep inside yourself there is a role at play. Is it the good girl, the fixer, are you being the mother figure, are you the rescuer? Identifying the true base of the loop, helps you to relinquish yourself from it, finding deeper understanding and compassion for yourself. The minute you understand the root, the loop loses its power over you.