The ugly times in life can be the best if you learn to embrace it all

Peonys are so beautiful. One of my favourite flowers in fact. When in bloom they look so gorgeous. But not too soon after flowering they look dreadful. They are yellow and brown and look very sad. We could think we have failed at the peony planting. ‘What have I done ,and why does it look this way’? But the peony has to be left this way so that it is able to nourish its roots ready for the spring. First thought is to tidy it up and cut away the leaves that look yuk. Honestly I have to really give myself a talking to, so i don’t cut them too prematurely for the sake of garden vanity.

The leaves must be left this way, so there is a period of doing absolutely nothing, so they can get nourishment ready for the spring. while having to look at these yellow/brownish leaves because you cannot cut them back until the nourishment has taken place. Do you have the patient to just wait in your life or in your business when you are in change, or grieving loss or any kind of transition? and when we are nurturing ourselves but at the same time we look yuk or things look yuk. You cannot have one stage without the other. Cutting back is so important in our process of growth. Being patient and just waiting until the time is right is so important.

The most ugly time in our lives, can be the most nourishing. Times when we hibernate or are not blooming is still a time for growth, If you have faith, knowing the cycle of life is at play. There are so many times in my life that has appeared so ugly but with the regular occurrence, I learnt to love the ugly moment because they always helped me to feel great inside and to know eventually I would bloom. Where are you in your stage of life.. the ugly or the bloom.. both are beautiful if you can learn to love it all.   

These stages exist side by side and one is not better than the other. They are stages, and when we accept this in life we can embrace our ugly moments and come to love them, knowing we are going to bloom again. Life is about light and dark.

I have experienced so many ugly. Moments in my life, that I eventually came to understand how important the ugly moments were, in fact they are so important that they became beautiful in their own right. When I relaxed and understood this everything changed. I could accept myself knowing all was ok and I would be ok in the cycle of life as long as I came to nourish and understand the ugly moments.

In life we can experience some true ugly moments. In loss and grief and change. And sometimes when we think this is it and nothing will change and we panic. Too quickly wanting to discard the ugly when actually it is nourishing us… being in grief and being still helps us to process. … having survived a separation and in the slow of life or life has changed, can be nourishing, do not be too quick to want to clear it all up like the peony leaves.. revelle in it and enjoy the space that it brings.   The ugly is our dark moments that never feel they will end. But it is who we truly our.. our most beautiful selves. If you try to tidy everything up so it doesn’t look messy.. then you suppress it deep into your roots. And it lays dormant continuing to show up in our lives we really don’t want the ugliness to show. Up.