Why do we constantly never feel enough. And why are things never enough? Why do we constantly seek more? Why, before we even finish one project are we thinking of the next? And why does it feel awful not to have anything on the go? Feeling like we are enough is amazing. Feeling like we don’t have to prove anything or become anything other than we want be is amazing, but why do we never reach this place of bliss? What gets in our way?

Believe it or not it is this thing called emotions, and believing that WE are NOT GOOD ENOUGH. So when life is never enough, it really means, WE believe we are not enough. But that is simply not true. It is something we have been made to believe.

We create life to be exciting. We create life with roles that are important. We create personas, masks and facades all so that we feel ENOUGH. We strive for more, we keep going, always looking for the next thing because underneath it all we do not feel that we are enough. Too afraid to stop.

But where does this belief come from? Of course I am enough I hear you say. And you would be right. But why then do you keep looking for the next thing. The next thing to buy, the next thing to create, the next relationship, the next something, all so that you do not have to BE with yourself. We fear we are not enough somewhere deep within our cells. There underneath all the stuff piled high on top of you is a little girl that never felt she was enough. But who was she not enough for? Her parents? her environment? herself? WHO? Creating a life without you in it, is exhausting. Creating a life where she is never seen and heard is painful. Creating a life where she cannot be free to be herself is crushing.

Creating is an amazing feeling. Creating and being creative is beyond joyful, but if you are not at the centre of those creations, and able to find peace and joy in the nothing, along side the creating, then you are creating outside of yourself. From the outside in, instead of the inside out.

Living in the ordinary, not spinning plates, is where joy is found. She is found right there in this place. Noticing the small things. Finding Joy in the small moments. But why??? When Joy is not around, do we keep striving for more and more? until we can hardly move, constantly trying to be noticed or seen. Never feeling our relationships give us enough, or we are enough. Which can fill us with anxiety, never feeling content and at peace within. Never feeling like we have the wisdom. Constantly second guessing.

Because more and more, keeping busy, keeps us from knowing our truth. It prevents us from feeling that, NOT GOOD ENOUGH, that we were made to believe. Which we are all sacred to feel. Not striving and sitting with ourselves feels emotional. Who are we without those prestigious roles? Who are we we when we are not striving for the next goal? Who are we if we are not trying to please everyone.

MMM that feels empty hey? Then who are we?

Have you created a life with you in it, or have you created a life where you constantly leave her behind. You tell her tomorrow, next week, next year, but that day never comes. Until you are forced to stop. Our bodies telling us we have to stop. She tell us she is not going to put up with it any longer. She does not want to live a life on the edge, or constantly doing. She wants to be being. She wants to be experiencing joy. Deep joy. Not the joy that comes with a bottle wine, surrounded by lots of people she hardly knows. But how do you stop? How do you find this place of ENOUGH, instead of feeling like nothing is ever enough. Just one more thing. Just one more. You know the story. The never ending story.

How do you find this place where you are not convincing yourself that life is ok?

So how do we stop and listen to her. How do we find the wisdom within and how do we find this amazing joy that comes from within. Where we feel ENOUGH. Not perfect but enough.

So many of us want to feel super special, super noticed, super anything, but as children we need to feel seen, witnessed, noticed and to feel the goldilocks of being enough.. being just right, so we feel good enough from our core.

To feel this enough. The environment has to be just right. the dial set to optimum setting. What is the setting I hear you say. Well the dial has three settings. One, I am not enough. Two, I have to be enough, so I am going to be enough, and three, I am ENOUGH.

There have been so many times in my life that I have not felt enough, striving for more, until with each loss, each loss of identity and role and persona, I came to realise I am ENOUGH. I am enough for ME. Not anyone else.

Life may feel ordinary sometimes. It may not feel as exciting as others on instagram, Facebook, tik tok and any other social media, but stripping all that away, you are left with yourself and you know you are enough, but how do you stay steady in that world of enough, when everyone else is spinning for more. More glam, more show, and more everything. Do you feel like you need to keep up? Does it make you feel not good enough? You are pulled this way and that way and being with your SELF feels impossible.

Turning in to yourself is where you find Joy. She is there waiting for you when you are ready. But next week, tomorrow never comes when you don’t feel ENOUGH.

We are all born enough. How could we not be, but the enviornment when we are born determines if we believe we are enough or not.

Do you want to feel enough? Are you ready? If you are then you are in the right place. A place where you do not have to be anything for anyone other than your true self. Not fearful of showing up as her because people won’t like her or she won’t be exciting enough or clever enough. Because Love on the inside you are already enough. That is where we begin and then everything else falls away. All the beliefs, all the stuff that we are carrying and holding onto that fuel that belief. It is time to let it go.