Living a life on the inside with Flow

Why we believe going with the flow and stepping into feminine energy is about being easy, carefree and not really caring or minding.  We hear the term all the time. We believe flow is about just being easy and carefree. The term, ‘Go with the Flow,’ has led us to believe that we can do whatever we want in the moment, with no boundaries.  We believe this makes us feel easy and loveable, and somehow, we feel like a free spirit. While this is essentially true, we cannot achieve flow, our true feminine energy without our masculine energy.  Yes, we can live in the moment, but we cannot do so if we do not know of the existence of the sacred space. This is where so many of us get so confused. Flow is about knowing how and when to be able to listen to your inner intuition, your soul and your inner being, knowing what your soul needs at any given moment and having the STRENGTH, wisdom and power to meet those needs. It’s knowing how to get into alignment.

To get into alignment you need a guidance system, which gives you the wisdom, clarity, strength and power to know how to meet those needs?  Are you connected to your soul? Or are you disconnected to your soul? You may need to be able to say no or relinquish perceived expectations or goals. You may need to be angry or expressive, which may seem to go against flow. Or you may need strength and power, (the right power), not control and manipulation.  Or you may need to be seen and heard or feel comfort, or you may need to shine. Or you may need silence and reflection. Getting into flow is not about being easy and giving away your power, it is the opposite.  It is not about saying, ‘It’s fine,’ all the time, or ‘never mind,’ or ‘it’s ok,’ when it isn’t. Stepping into flow is about understanding who you are at your very core, and relinquishing patterns and beliefs you have built up over time.  Being able to relinquish the patterns that no longer serve you, helping you step into true flow, where alignment exists, relinquishing beliefs and patterns that allow you to show up in your life, enabling you to create boundaries, or enabling you to say ‘NO,’ or ‘you do mind,’ or ‘you are not fine.’ Listening to your own system allows you to get into flow, where you can align with the river, and let go, where life is not a struggle, where control does not exist, but it does not mean giving away your power and truth.  

What happens if you are disconnected from your soul and cannot hear your true guidance system? The greater the roles in our lives, the further we move away from our inner being, where flow exists, in the silence, in the stillness, in the creativity, and in the small things in life.  The roles we create in our life, hide away our pain, continually using up energy to try and protect us, which also prevents us from finding our magic.  The perfectionism, the good girl, the martyr, the rescuer, the comedian. All these roles prevent us from finding and following are internal guidance system, where flow exists.

The further you move away, the harder it is to hear your guidance system and to be able to trust it. The further you move away, the more unrest you feel, and the increased unwanted symptoms show up in your life.  How do you return to this place, where comfort, clarity, true feminine power, strength, integrity, compassion, wisdom and flow exist, free from exhaustion, worry and guilt? We spend a lifetime searching for such a place that lives within us all and yet it can sometimes feel impossible to find, so we search outside ourselves for the answers, clinging onto relationships, jobs, and situations, that we think will provide us with this feeling and all the answers, but all the answers lay deep within the cells of you and your body and your soul. You have the wisdom, you have the key, you just need to be able to find it and know how to step onto the path. The only book you will find your answers in, will be in the book of you!!

So many of us have had to suppress our emotions during childhood, because our environments did not meet our needs for being seen, heard and understood, or even meeting our basic needs of safety, failing to allow us to feel significant in our own lives, and instead we develop roles, to hide away the pain of not being seen, developing feelings of not being good enough.  The pain slowly seeping into the cells of our body, draining us of vitality and energy.  The roles we create and the lives we step into, are formed from our need to protect ourselves, hiding a part of ourselves away.  We become disconnected, and we seek external validations and comfort, numbing the pain with addictions, perfectionism, work, alcohol, drug, with the endless busyness to cover up all that is not understood, always looking for the next thrill or excitement to fill the void.

When we are living on the outside of our lives, it is hard to express the traumas in our lives, the losses we face, the hurt and pain, because we seek solace in the external, instead of reaching deep within the cells of our own being for the answers, for the truth, where fear cannot remain to exist. Instead, we become an observer to life, constantly seeking external connections that keep us separate from our inner being.

Love on the inside is a transitional journey home to the true you. A place that is forever home, no matter where you are in the world. It takes courage to find it, and a faith and a belief, knowing it is there, but with one small step every day, the path twists and turns, like a labyrinth, with crossroads and junctions, eventually finding yourself skipping, where you were once, confused, exhausted, dragging your feet, unconsolably emotional, or paralyzed with fear. The path doesn’t come to an end, you simply learn to shed the heavy load you are carrying along the way, and learn to love the path that you have chosen to be on, moving through the labyrinth, forest or the darkest depths of your soul, to a place that feels light, bright and full of joy, a place that you call home.