What happens when life leaves you feeling stuck, and causes you to slow down.

The anxiety and exhaustion, overwhelm, and confusion can be seen a little more clearly, albeit they may still be there. Beyond the confusion and exhaustion and anxiety we notice things we have not noticed before, we can feel we can breath a little and life finds a bit of colour that we didn’t see before. The anxiety and exhaustion, overwhelm, and confusion can be seen a little more clearly, albeit they may still be there.

But how do we slow down? especially when we are looking after everyone else. It isn’t always that easy. Slowing down to look after ourselves when we have so much keeping us on on the outside, can seem impossible.

Who has time for slowing down when so much is going on in life?

Just when you think you have it all figured out you can still become stuck and find yourself in a place you never thought you would BEE. 🐝

Life just throws unexpected things at us that we don’t always see, but sometimes the slower we are the easier it is to navigate them.

Knowing what we need and when, we don’t have to have everything figured out, we just need to know what we need and when. But sometimes we just don’t know and we need help.

Like Mrs Queen BEE that arrived  in my garden one day. There she was stuck in a spiders web.

Unable to move, and the more she tried to move, the more she entangled herself further into the web.

The more she moved, the more stuck she became.

I wanted to tell her to sit still, chill out, relax, and I wanted to tell her I have got this, but of course she was fearful, who wouldn’t bee.

But if only she could have relaxed, but of course she already knew how to fly, she didn’t need teaching or fixing, she just needed help getting unstuck.

And as women we don’t need fixing or preaching to, or being told how to be a woman, because we have that covered, we know we are a woman.

But for Mrs queen BEE, we could have got there a lot quicker and a lot easier if she could have surrendered to the stillness, and stopped, or at the very least slowed down, but that is not who she is right?

She is the one holding it all together with a very important job to do, and if she doesn’t do it, who will??? So she does not have time to slow down!!!!

I was very confident I could set her free, but fear can overcome us to such an extent that we try so hard. We panic, we chase, we try with all our strength, but if she knew, I really knew how to get her free, and she was able to trust me, even when she was being asked to reman still while facing adversity, then maybe she would have just relaxed.

When our nervous system is relaxed the world is a better place.

But she didn’t know she could trust me, and she didn’t know she would be able to fly again. All of these are real fears.

She didn’t know right then there if she was going to be able to fly free and go back to being fast, or at a new fast that suited her.

Putting our trust in someone to help us become free can be very scary. It can make us feel vulnerable or we can perceive ourselves as weak.

But if she didn’t slow down and get free, there is no queen BEE!!!! Nada, poof, gone in a slow death. There is no point having what we have in our life, if we do not have our health and exist. We cannot be there for our families or work or anything if we don’t exist.

So, with my trusty toothpick I set about setting her free. I had to be so gentle, so slow, and yet she was wanting to buzz, buzz, buzz, and I am sure if she could have spoken, she would have told me to hurry up and just get her free, and get on with it, so she could get on with her life.

 So slowly and carefully  I removed the web from her, and she flew off in an instant. I felt immense joy, relief, overwhelm, all at the same time. She didn’t fly back and stay wanting to shower me with thanks, she flew off to live her life. In that moment she taught me so much. She reconfirmed for me it was ok to go slow, even though her whole being was buzz buzz buzz.

BEEing slow over the years and BEEing invisible, gave me the greatest gifts. It did not mean that I stopped life and sat in a chair all day, quite the opposite. It did not mean I was living in a cave. It meant I had time to see the real me, find the truth and love her.

It allowed me space and time to move faster, but in a very different way. I was still able to move slowly, but things moved fast too. Now that sound confusing doesn’t it?

But it also taught me that letting go, going slow and growing was also perfectly ok, and that needing help sometimes in our lives is inevitable, because we cannot always avoid the spiders web, and this does not make us weak, or not capable. In fact it gives us a great deal of strength.

We just have to surrender to it and surrender to the wisdom, of mother nature, even if we find it frustrating, slow and annoying.

It also taught me that the wisdom is found in the stillness of the slowing down and letting go of the notion that we always have to be busy, helps us to embrace life so much easier if we can just relax, chill out, and just BEE, 🐝

Because when you have time for that, the ideas and inspiration flow through you much easier, and life becomes easier.

You are able to let go much easier. No more forcing , pushing, rushing, it changes completely, so you can fly with ease.

What being on the inside taught me, was our wisdom, clarity, and beauty come from the not knowing, the stillness, and the mess, but who has time for that hey? Because that place can feel scary.

“In the stillness you find your self.”

But once you find your groove, it feels like heaven, not having to be in control and working everything out, and not having to have all the answers at your finger tips, and having to be all things to all people. Knowing that it is ok and you figure it out along the way, and you learn not to care about what others think.

The fear ebbs away and a certainty arrives, knowing you will arrive and figure it out.

That is heaven in its self right? not caring what others think about you. Is there such a place?

But slow can seem frustrating, irritating even, and it can make us angry and emotional at times, because we don’t seem to be getting anywhere, when in fact sooooo much is happening in the stillness.

It helps us to build our foundations, become unstuck and discover our inner beauty. We rebuild our nervous system in the stillness.

This is when we begin to see the door. The door we never knew existed. The door to our inner self. Our inner wisdom.

I always find when I have lost something, searching and searching to find it gets me nowhere. When I sit back relax, the hiding place pops into my head.

I remember a time many years ago when I lost my keys, omg it used to be a regular occurrence. Usually on the top of the car or something, whilst trying to get babies into a car. Oh the memories.

I looked everywhere, and couldn’t find them, so I stopped and asked for my daughter’s help.

We both relaxed and chilled, and we just slowly thought to ourselves in our minds. A vision popped into my mind straight away and in synchronicity both my daughter and I, at the same time, had the same thought.

We both said out loud, “they are in the washing machine!!!!!”

I know, who puts their keys in a washing machine.

When I looked, there they were. Slowing down instead of forcing can give us wisdom, and put us into a new brainwave where solutions arrive easily, or easier.

But first we have to get free so we know how to slow down, but it does not mean we give up on life and sit in a rocking chair. No!

We did laugh about this.

Have you ever put something in a strange place and couldn’t find it?

How many of you get to the top of the stairs and have no idea why you are there?

As women we have so much to do and our minds are racing, no wonder we can’t remember at the top of the stairs or that we have put our keys in the strangest of places.

I love these moments together

Love Sharon x

Photo taken in Florence, Uffizi Gallery. Painting by Michelangelo Merisi da Caravaggio, Medusa